So, I was on Facebook for a bit today, and I noticed several posts that struck me as a bit odd. In fact, over the past several days, I've seen a few posts much like these. They were different because they were about relationships (or the lack thereof), posted by girls, and actually quite correct.
It is not surprising to find posts about relationships on Facebook. I see several per day. However, these posts were different in that they were about several things I have been preaching since I started this blog. One of them mentioned the problem that many girls have about not being able to see a guy for who he is deeper down. Another mentioned how she needed to find someone who is actually willing to put her first. Not often I see several of these admissions in one day.
The other part that gets me is that... they were posted by girls. Granted, girls probably post more about relationships than guys do. However, I rarely see them admit truths like the ones I have seen recently. Usually, they are about how perfect the jerk that she is dating is. Perfect? Hardly.
Yeah, I'm taking a few more digs at girls and relationships. Most people see it that girls are experts when it comes to love, and all guys are jerks, but that couldn't be farther from the truth. Sure, many guys ARE jerks. The problem is that those are the guys that the girls are usually in love with. Whose fault is that one? Either way, girls are no better at relationships than guys are.
When it comes right down to it, these are only Facebook posts. Whether or not the poster actually learned anything from them is another story in itself. As much as I hate to say it, they were probably just posting that stuff to make themselves feel better about a recently failed relationship or crush. When all is said and done, they will probably be right back to their old (and wrong) ways soon enough. But I can only hold out hope.
Hope... that one of them actually meant what was posted.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Obsession
Kind of an odd title, but I think I'll go with it.
Lately, I've taken a closer look at my own actions. What I am seeing surprises me. From what I can tell, my search for someone who is different then all the rest (someone who has the ability to love me for who I am) has taken over a lot of who I am. I am constantly thinking about it, and it has gotten to the point where it seems to dominate my every action.
The real question is... is this good or bad?
Some might say I'm overreacting. I'm not so sure though... Whenever I'm about to go somewhere, I find myself thinking about: Who might I meet there? And when I get there, my eyes dart from person to person, observing what I can about people around me. It is a never ceasing cycle, so it would seem. And it only makes me that much more conscious about my aloneness.
Most recently, I went with my family to an amusement park. I should have been prepared for the large number of couples there, seeing as amusement parks are prime date destinations. But I was blissfully unaware until we got there, and I began to observe my surroundings. I couldn't get my mind off of it the whole time we were there... How wonderful it would be to have someone you could do stuff like that with... It is definitely one of the most taken-for-granted things in this world.
Anyways, you might call this whole thing an obsession, hence the title. But is it bad or good? And is there really any reason for it when I probably have little chance of finding what I'm looking for?
I'm probably overthinking this, but I can't help but ask myself all of these questions. And as I mentioned before, this whole thing is overshadowed by a sense of dread. A sense that I might not find what I'm devoting so much of my time and effort searching for.
Lately, I've taken a closer look at my own actions. What I am seeing surprises me. From what I can tell, my search for someone who is different then all the rest (someone who has the ability to love me for who I am) has taken over a lot of who I am. I am constantly thinking about it, and it has gotten to the point where it seems to dominate my every action.
The real question is... is this good or bad?
Some might say I'm overreacting. I'm not so sure though... Whenever I'm about to go somewhere, I find myself thinking about: Who might I meet there? And when I get there, my eyes dart from person to person, observing what I can about people around me. It is a never ceasing cycle, so it would seem. And it only makes me that much more conscious about my aloneness.
Most recently, I went with my family to an amusement park. I should have been prepared for the large number of couples there, seeing as amusement parks are prime date destinations. But I was blissfully unaware until we got there, and I began to observe my surroundings. I couldn't get my mind off of it the whole time we were there... How wonderful it would be to have someone you could do stuff like that with... It is definitely one of the most taken-for-granted things in this world.
Anyways, you might call this whole thing an obsession, hence the title. But is it bad or good? And is there really any reason for it when I probably have little chance of finding what I'm looking for?
I'm probably overthinking this, but I can't help but ask myself all of these questions. And as I mentioned before, this whole thing is overshadowed by a sense of dread. A sense that I might not find what I'm devoting so much of my time and effort searching for.
Friday, September 16, 2011
Final Option
Yeah, I know... been far too long.
Anyways, I have kept myself busy writing elsewhere. I have been working on several story templates. In case you don't know me that well, I plan on writing several books eventually. Perhaps even more than just a few. Each of them will derive directly from my thoughts and feelings.
Obviously, there is still much work to be done. And besides that, I am driven onwards by some more recently aquired disdain for the way the world percieves and views relationships. As my own loneliness deepens, my outlook on the world darkens. And so does my drive to prove to everyone that they were wrong in overlooking me. That is my inspiration. To create worlds and stories that will change the way people think, perhaps preventing others from suffering the same fate that I have been condemned to.
And what fate is that, might you ask? The fate of forgottenness. The fate of being left behind my so many who wouldn't bother to look deeper. And worse, left behind by those who looked deeper... yet wouldn't place the correct value on what lay beneath.
So now, I must climb to the top. No matter what it takes. If only to prevent other good hearts from suffering my fate. And the only way to do so is by accomplishing a feat that nobody can ignore. For me, I'm thinking that feat should be to write something so impressive that it will sink into peoples' very hearts.
Either way, my journey to gain recognition has just begun...
Anyways, I have kept myself busy writing elsewhere. I have been working on several story templates. In case you don't know me that well, I plan on writing several books eventually. Perhaps even more than just a few. Each of them will derive directly from my thoughts and feelings.
Obviously, there is still much work to be done. And besides that, I am driven onwards by some more recently aquired disdain for the way the world percieves and views relationships. As my own loneliness deepens, my outlook on the world darkens. And so does my drive to prove to everyone that they were wrong in overlooking me. That is my inspiration. To create worlds and stories that will change the way people think, perhaps preventing others from suffering the same fate that I have been condemned to.
And what fate is that, might you ask? The fate of forgottenness. The fate of being left behind my so many who wouldn't bother to look deeper. And worse, left behind by those who looked deeper... yet wouldn't place the correct value on what lay beneath.
So now, I must climb to the top. No matter what it takes. If only to prevent other good hearts from suffering my fate. And the only way to do so is by accomplishing a feat that nobody can ignore. For me, I'm thinking that feat should be to write something so impressive that it will sink into peoples' very hearts.
Either way, my journey to gain recognition has just begun...
Monday, July 18, 2011
Staples
So, its been over a month and a half since I have posted in the blog huh... I feel kinda bad about it, but you know what they say about writers. They need inspiration. I suppose I shouldn't go so far as to call myself a true writer yet, but the same rules still apply. I just haven't had any inspiration lately. I have tried several times to start a good post, each of them unsuccessful. This time, I think I might have my inspiration.
Anyways, I was hanging out with several of my friends tonight, and eventually, we got to watching TV. If anyone has ever watched anything on ABC Family, you know how it all goes. Anyways, I made several snide remarks about the total stupidity when it comes to relationships being displayed in these shows. I as then asked why I am always such a hater.
While they do have a point, I have one as well. I will readily admit, I was probably being too much of a hater for my own good. However, when it comes to love, these shows and movies don't have a clue. Since most of them follow the girl, I'll go from that point of view.
First, the male love interest is always portrayed as amazing looking.
The Problem: It gives a false impression of what girls should look for in a guy. Honestly? Do you really think that every guy worth dating is going to look like what they do on TV? Those people just happen to be PAID ACTORS. They don't get paid money to act while looking like a normal person, they get paid to act and look like someone EXTRAORDINARY. Thus, it gives a very misleading impression of what a girl's true love "should" look like. I'm not saying we have to remove all good looking actors from television screens everywhere. I only wish people wouldn't run their lives based off of what they saw on TV.
Second, the girl always falls for the guy based on his looks.
The Problem: You might think to argue this, but it is actually very true. Keep a close ear out, and you'll hear plenty about how cute or hot this particular guy is. The main character will usually say this at least a few times. Granted, we are all human beings, and we're hardwired to think about looks first. However, when it comes time to actually consider a relationship, there is a lot more that needs to be taken into consideration. The problem is, so many people (not just girls) are willing to jump into a relationship based on looks alone. And more often, people are overlooked because they don't quite stand out when it comes to looks. This particular element that seems to always be included in these shows only adds fuel to the fire by making it look normal to base a relationship solely on looks.
I also can't forget... Said "good looking" love interest turns out to be an absolutely wonderful person at heart.
The Problem: Good looks and an amazing heart is a rare combination. Are there some good looking people with good hearts out there? Yes. Are they as common as movies and TV shows say? Nope. I'm not trying to shatter anyone's hopes out there, but... many people with good looks are often quite full of themselves. Why? Because they can afford to be. Since they could have just about any one of the many people who are obviously attracted to them, why should they bother to but forth any effort in a relationship? It is a disaster waiting to happen to anyone willing to fall into this all too common trap.
It all just makes me sick. The really unfortunate part... is that society mirrors what they see in these movies and shows. Relationships are made and unmade based entirely on looks and what I refer to as "surface personality." The problem is that these never last, leaving the person who was truly looking for a committed relationship wondering if there are really any good people out there. Even worse, the answer is probably right under their nose if they would bother to look.
Anyways, I was hanging out with several of my friends tonight, and eventually, we got to watching TV. If anyone has ever watched anything on ABC Family, you know how it all goes. Anyways, I made several snide remarks about the total stupidity when it comes to relationships being displayed in these shows. I as then asked why I am always such a hater.
While they do have a point, I have one as well. I will readily admit, I was probably being too much of a hater for my own good. However, when it comes to love, these shows and movies don't have a clue. Since most of them follow the girl, I'll go from that point of view.
First, the male love interest is always portrayed as amazing looking.
The Problem: It gives a false impression of what girls should look for in a guy. Honestly? Do you really think that every guy worth dating is going to look like what they do on TV? Those people just happen to be PAID ACTORS. They don't get paid money to act while looking like a normal person, they get paid to act and look like someone EXTRAORDINARY. Thus, it gives a very misleading impression of what a girl's true love "should" look like. I'm not saying we have to remove all good looking actors from television screens everywhere. I only wish people wouldn't run their lives based off of what they saw on TV.
Second, the girl always falls for the guy based on his looks.
The Problem: You might think to argue this, but it is actually very true. Keep a close ear out, and you'll hear plenty about how cute or hot this particular guy is. The main character will usually say this at least a few times. Granted, we are all human beings, and we're hardwired to think about looks first. However, when it comes time to actually consider a relationship, there is a lot more that needs to be taken into consideration. The problem is, so many people (not just girls) are willing to jump into a relationship based on looks alone. And more often, people are overlooked because they don't quite stand out when it comes to looks. This particular element that seems to always be included in these shows only adds fuel to the fire by making it look normal to base a relationship solely on looks.
I also can't forget... Said "good looking" love interest turns out to be an absolutely wonderful person at heart.
The Problem: Good looks and an amazing heart is a rare combination. Are there some good looking people with good hearts out there? Yes. Are they as common as movies and TV shows say? Nope. I'm not trying to shatter anyone's hopes out there, but... many people with good looks are often quite full of themselves. Why? Because they can afford to be. Since they could have just about any one of the many people who are obviously attracted to them, why should they bother to but forth any effort in a relationship? It is a disaster waiting to happen to anyone willing to fall into this all too common trap.
It all just makes me sick. The really unfortunate part... is that society mirrors what they see in these movies and shows. Relationships are made and unmade based entirely on looks and what I refer to as "surface personality." The problem is that these never last, leaving the person who was truly looking for a committed relationship wondering if there are really any good people out there. Even worse, the answer is probably right under their nose if they would bother to look.
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