So, I was on Facebook for a bit today, and I noticed several posts that struck me as a bit odd. In fact, over the past several days, I've seen a few posts much like these. They were different because they were about relationships (or the lack thereof), posted by girls, and actually quite correct.
It is not surprising to find posts about relationships on Facebook. I see several per day. However, these posts were different in that they were about several things I have been preaching since I started this blog. One of them mentioned the problem that many girls have about not being able to see a guy for who he is deeper down. Another mentioned how she needed to find someone who is actually willing to put her first. Not often I see several of these admissions in one day.
The other part that gets me is that... they were posted by girls. Granted, girls probably post more about relationships than guys do. However, I rarely see them admit truths like the ones I have seen recently. Usually, they are about how perfect the jerk that she is dating is. Perfect? Hardly.
Yeah, I'm taking a few more digs at girls and relationships. Most people see it that girls are experts when it comes to love, and all guys are jerks, but that couldn't be farther from the truth. Sure, many guys ARE jerks. The problem is that those are the guys that the girls are usually in love with. Whose fault is that one? Either way, girls are no better at relationships than guys are.
When it comes right down to it, these are only Facebook posts. Whether or not the poster actually learned anything from them is another story in itself. As much as I hate to say it, they were probably just posting that stuff to make themselves feel better about a recently failed relationship or crush. When all is said and done, they will probably be right back to their old (and wrong) ways soon enough. But I can only hold out hope.
Hope... that one of them actually meant what was posted.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Obsession
Kind of an odd title, but I think I'll go with it.
Lately, I've taken a closer look at my own actions. What I am seeing surprises me. From what I can tell, my search for someone who is different then all the rest (someone who has the ability to love me for who I am) has taken over a lot of who I am. I am constantly thinking about it, and it has gotten to the point where it seems to dominate my every action.
The real question is... is this good or bad?
Some might say I'm overreacting. I'm not so sure though... Whenever I'm about to go somewhere, I find myself thinking about: Who might I meet there? And when I get there, my eyes dart from person to person, observing what I can about people around me. It is a never ceasing cycle, so it would seem. And it only makes me that much more conscious about my aloneness.
Most recently, I went with my family to an amusement park. I should have been prepared for the large number of couples there, seeing as amusement parks are prime date destinations. But I was blissfully unaware until we got there, and I began to observe my surroundings. I couldn't get my mind off of it the whole time we were there... How wonderful it would be to have someone you could do stuff like that with... It is definitely one of the most taken-for-granted things in this world.
Anyways, you might call this whole thing an obsession, hence the title. But is it bad or good? And is there really any reason for it when I probably have little chance of finding what I'm looking for?
I'm probably overthinking this, but I can't help but ask myself all of these questions. And as I mentioned before, this whole thing is overshadowed by a sense of dread. A sense that I might not find what I'm devoting so much of my time and effort searching for.
Lately, I've taken a closer look at my own actions. What I am seeing surprises me. From what I can tell, my search for someone who is different then all the rest (someone who has the ability to love me for who I am) has taken over a lot of who I am. I am constantly thinking about it, and it has gotten to the point where it seems to dominate my every action.
The real question is... is this good or bad?
Some might say I'm overreacting. I'm not so sure though... Whenever I'm about to go somewhere, I find myself thinking about: Who might I meet there? And when I get there, my eyes dart from person to person, observing what I can about people around me. It is a never ceasing cycle, so it would seem. And it only makes me that much more conscious about my aloneness.
Most recently, I went with my family to an amusement park. I should have been prepared for the large number of couples there, seeing as amusement parks are prime date destinations. But I was blissfully unaware until we got there, and I began to observe my surroundings. I couldn't get my mind off of it the whole time we were there... How wonderful it would be to have someone you could do stuff like that with... It is definitely one of the most taken-for-granted things in this world.
Anyways, you might call this whole thing an obsession, hence the title. But is it bad or good? And is there really any reason for it when I probably have little chance of finding what I'm looking for?
I'm probably overthinking this, but I can't help but ask myself all of these questions. And as I mentioned before, this whole thing is overshadowed by a sense of dread. A sense that I might not find what I'm devoting so much of my time and effort searching for.
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