All right, here’s the deal. Those of you who survived the tirade that was my last post will have the chance to do so again. Only this time, I’m gonna go from a slightly different perspective. I spent the entire two pages of my last post talking about how too many good girls end up with “bad boys.” But hey, I’m not sexist in any way. So what about the good guys who end up with “bad girls?” As far as I’m concerned, it happens just as often this way as it does reversed. It just isn’t publicized as much.
Now, I could go out of my way to write a whole new sob story for this one, but I think there is a much easier way to do this. Who has heard You Belong With Me by Taylor Swift? If you haven’t heard that song, where have you been? Anyways, that song describes a perfect scenario for this issue. If you are having a hard time understanding what the story is, just watch the music video.
So, in a nutshell, a girl, who has been friends with this guy forever, wants desperately to reveal her feelings to him. The problem? He’s dating a girl who is, excuse my language, a total b***h.
Eventually, the two overcome the odds to reveal their feelings to one another. However, not every similar story has this storybook-style ending.
So what is a “bad girl?” Now, I know there are several people with dirty minds snickering about the sexual implications of that term, but trust me, it’s a lot better than the alternatives. But what is a “bad girl?” I have narrowed down a few characteristics, though like I said in my last post, these do not necessarily make someone a bad person. These are just a few characteristics I have noticed that seem to be common in these types of people.
- She goes through relationships quickly.
- She has good looks and likes to flaunt them.
- She is disrespectful of authority.
- She is easily angered by simple things such as gossip.
- She likes to argue insignificant points.
- She has a violent reputation, and will get in a physical confrontation over insignificant matters.
- She only cares about looks and will readily do anything to maintain them.
- She dates many guys from different schools or areas.
These are just the few I could come up with. Once again, these traits don’t make one a bad person. They are simply warning signs that people, especially guys, need to watch for when making a judgment of character. In fact, this judgment of character is the step most guys leave out.
I’m not saying guys should always be judgmental. However, it is important to make an assessment of character before jumping into a relationship with anyone. So what is an appropriate way to assess character?
It all starts with getting to know the person. This is usually done in the form of casual dates, but I think it is a good idea to know the person a little bit even BEFORE that. Trust me, that theory saved me from jumping into what might have been a devastating relationship a year or two ago. Remember… DON’T RUSH! Doing so will only hurt you in the end.
Before I go any further with this, I need to address a major issue. What is the number-one reason guys go for the bad girls? You guessed it. Sex. This is the biggest factor I have seen. Just remember, relationships cannot be based on sex or looks alone. There has to be true compatibility for a relationship to last. In the end, looks will fade. What truly matters is what is in the heart.
You listening to me guys?
So, here comes the part where I tell you that your priorities need to be re-worked. If only it were that simple. But those with a strong enough heart will be able to see through to the inside. That is the ultimate satisfaction, knowing that you can put looks in the backseat and focus on what truly matters.
Remember, the girl you can truly love and trust, just like the guys in my previous post, is probably right under your nose.
