So, its been over a month and a half since I have posted in the blog huh... I feel kinda bad about it, but you know what they say about writers. They need inspiration. I suppose I shouldn't go so far as to call myself a true writer yet, but the same rules still apply. I just haven't had any inspiration lately. I have tried several times to start a good post, each of them unsuccessful. This time, I think I might have my inspiration.
Anyways, I was hanging out with several of my friends tonight, and eventually, we got to watching TV. If anyone has ever watched anything on ABC Family, you know how it all goes. Anyways, I made several snide remarks about the total stupidity when it comes to relationships being displayed in these shows. I as then asked why I am always such a hater.
While they do have a point, I have one as well. I will readily admit, I was probably being too much of a hater for my own good. However, when it comes to love, these shows and movies don't have a clue. Since most of them follow the girl, I'll go from that point of view.
First, the male love interest is always portrayed as amazing looking.
The Problem: It gives a false impression of what girls should look for in a guy. Honestly? Do you really think that every guy worth dating is going to look like what they do on TV? Those people just happen to be PAID ACTORS. They don't get paid money to act while looking like a normal person, they get paid to act and look like someone EXTRAORDINARY. Thus, it gives a very misleading impression of what a girl's true love "should" look like. I'm not saying we have to remove all good looking actors from television screens everywhere. I only wish people wouldn't run their lives based off of what they saw on TV.
Second, the girl always falls for the guy based on his looks.
The Problem: You might think to argue this, but it is actually very true. Keep a close ear out, and you'll hear plenty about how cute or hot this particular guy is. The main character will usually say this at least a few times. Granted, we are all human beings, and we're hardwired to think about looks first. However, when it comes time to actually consider a relationship, there is a lot more that needs to be taken into consideration. The problem is, so many people (not just girls) are willing to jump into a relationship based on looks alone. And more often, people are overlooked because they don't quite stand out when it comes to looks. This particular element that seems to always be included in these shows only adds fuel to the fire by making it look normal to base a relationship solely on looks.
I also can't forget... Said "good looking" love interest turns out to be an absolutely wonderful person at heart.
The Problem: Good looks and an amazing heart is a rare combination. Are there some good looking people with good hearts out there? Yes. Are they as common as movies and TV shows say? Nope. I'm not trying to shatter anyone's hopes out there, but... many people with good looks are often quite full of themselves. Why? Because they can afford to be. Since they could have just about any one of the many people who are obviously attracted to them, why should they bother to but forth any effort in a relationship? It is a disaster waiting to happen to anyone willing to fall into this all too common trap.
It all just makes me sick. The really unfortunate part... is that society mirrors what they see in these movies and shows. Relationships are made and unmade based entirely on looks and what I refer to as "surface personality." The problem is that these never last, leaving the person who was truly looking for a committed relationship wondering if there are really any good people out there. Even worse, the answer is probably right under their nose if they would bother to look.
